It is 3am and I am sitting at work thinking....
I have never really thought of myself as a judgemental person. What other people do is really not my business and I have always taken the "walk in their shoes" approach. However, recently I have went through some things in my life that really make me appreciate other people more-most importantly the differences of others. I consider myself even less judgmental now. Over the past couple months I have saw first hand just how easily "stuff happens". We are all riding along on this roller coaster of life and we think we have the ride pretty planned out. We are aware of some of the hills we'll be climbing up and the ones we'll be sliding down. My question for you is-what if the roller coaster doesn't stay on its designed course? Maybe it goes a little faster than normal....or maybe even slower? Maybe it completely stops and breaks down? Maybe we're riding along enjoying the fun and we completely fall off? Or maybe it veers off course into the unknown? All of us KNOW these things can happen but what do we do when they ACTUALLY do? We know family members will let us down-but how do we handle it when they aren't loving and supportive like you expected? We know friendships will crumble and people will change-but until you try to contact that friend multiple times with no response do you really KNOW how it'll affect you? We have heard the horror stories of divorce and know it potentially COULD happen to us-but are we ready to deal with the fact that YOUR husband or wife could come at you tomorrow with the papers in their hand asking you to sign? We know infidelity in a marriage is possible-but how would you take the news if YOUR spouse was sleeping around? We know we can't succeed at everything we try to accomplish in our lives-but are you ready to feel failure after working so hard to make a dream into a reality and not quite getting there? We know people die, lose jobs, get sick, have money problems..etc. But are we prepared to stand in front of our roller coaster and direct which way we want it to go?
We have to know ourselves and love ourselves. No one can do it better than us. Those support systems are crucial in everyday life and in times of struggle...but what happens when people are too busy with their own lives to worry about yours? I have realized that being able to stand is of vital importance because there will be times where you need to lean...and there will be nothing there to lean on. Don't burn your bridges because one day you may need to cross them again. The old saying, "You gotta be able to pull yourself up by your boot straps" comes to mind while wriitng this...but wouldn't it be so much easier if we just held them up before they fall? Our roller coaster wasn't built very well...and the chances of their being a mechanical problem is almost certain. Are you prepared?
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